So let's address SMACKING, and I'm NOT talking about the type I'd give my fiancee Florian TIZIANI, in the bedroom when he's naughty (ha, ha, joke joyce)... but this is quite a serious post.
We had a situation just the other day with a baby-sitter from Thailand, picking up a little boy from school to take him home, at rue Saint Roch, 75001.
I was waiting outside the real estate office for the Epson Printer, (they were holding for me mentioned in my previous post) and this babysitter came along with a screaming child in her hand, forcing him to walk along. After much struggle she jerked his wrist with excessive force towards her and with a squeeze of frustration she threatened him in broken English... to give him a smack (maybe that by speaking in English, she thought that nobody else would understand?).
I understood it perfectly well and turned towards her, now giving her my full attention. She continued forcing the little boy along with one hand who was still screaming trying to resist her to no avail; she tried to walk past ignoring me hoping I'd mind my own businesses like everyone else did. I stood in her way with intention and glared right into her miserable eye's and saw nothing but guilt, it occurred to me she's done this before. She tried to go round me but I shuffled to one side blocking her for the second time. In frustration she jerked the screaming child again by the wrist... and said to me ‘what's your problem?’ I replied (with a deep growl in my voice at mid-level pitch), ‘that is NOT your child to hit and if you hit him, I'm going to hit you, are we clear?’ Her eyes changed emotion from guilt to fear of exposure and she went into a frenzy, assuming a guilty verdict before an accusation, which is indicative of someone who's level of patience is not fit to handle the developmental stages of a small child. She constructively shouted over the top of my voice so that nobody would hear what I was saying to her, pleading ‘I didn't hit him, I didn't hit him’; and I repeated with same serious tone (so that she and everybody else could understand I wasn't joking), ‘ I said, If you hit him, I'm going to hit you, are we clear?’ ...then she continued her tantrum making a scene for support and I added (unmoved by her manipulation tactics), ‘I'm watching you, that is not your child to hit and if you can't handle screaming kids then you should get another job or go back to where you came from, his parents are paying you good money in trust that you would look after their child and your abusing that trust’ (...she’s certainly too aggressive to mind children of that age).
So let's address the issue of SMACKING. If you are the parent, it's OK (as parents should have the right to DISCIPLINE their children, their instincts are designed to adequately cater for their children's needs and that's a privilege given by GOD). There is a big difference between DISCIPLINE and abuse, let’s also be clear on that. BUT if you are not the parent, it's absolutely unacceptable to smack a child entrusted in your care... because it's a PAID service and it's not cheap, it's like breaching a work contract, betraying the very person paying your wages.
I've taken photo's of this pathetic, incompetent baby-sitter and forwarded it to the head office of the relevant department, for assurance purposes. I’ve had a police officer in confidence vouch for my credibility... and to be quite honest, I feel sorry for the parents of this beautiful little French boy, who are so busy working to meet their living expenses that they haven't got to look after their own child.
MAY I ADD THAT THIS IS NOT THE FIRST THAI BABY-SITTER I'VE WITNESSED INCORRECTLY HANDLE A CHILD IN HER CARE WHILE THE PARENTS HAVE GOT THEIR BACKS TURNED. THEY HAVE A GOOD SYSTEM BETWEEN THEM, THEY BACK EACH OTHER UP!
When I communicated this incident to another eye witness before I left, she said ‘...it happens all the time, these baby-sitters from third world countries do not have the same parenting standards as the French BUT they convincing and HIRED BECAUSE THEY ARE CHEAP!’
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